Baby drama, sister in law mad at me?
just curious what other people would do in this situation, cuz its really been bothering me. I recently had a baby who is now six months old, and my husband just got back from his tour in iraq recently. while he was gone i had post partum depression very severely, and had a hard time taking care of my baby girl, who was very colicky. so my mother and mother in law would help out alot, taking the baby over night often. my sister in law would always get so mad, she has a baby who is a few months older than mine, and my mother in law never watched their kid over night cuz she was watching my baby. now that my husband is back, we are taking care of the baby now, but my sister in law totally hates me now. talks a bout how bad of a mom I am, and h ow she never wants to see me anymore, and is going to avoid me at all future holiday get togethers. its hurts my feelings how she is treating me, and she doesn’t understand what i went through. i personally feel very hurt. was i in the wrong here? i dunno.
do you think i should just leave things the way they are, and not talk to her, or should i try to make ammends. tho, i don’t think i really need to, i sorta think she’s the one with the problem.
do you think i should just leave things the way they are, and not talk to her, or should i try to make ammends. tho, i don’t think i really need to, i sorta think she’s the one with the problem.
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Your sister in law is family, do you really want things to be like this the rest of your life? I think you are absolutely right, she is the one with the problem here! Go to her and try to make her understand that your husband was in Iraq, and how would she feel if the same thing happened to her. I think you should at least try. It sounds like she is jealous, she will come around.
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She sounds selfish….I would do nothing. You don’t owe her anything…
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Well I don’t think you are a bad mom I allso had bad postpartum depression with both my pregnancys but I never sent my bab off with my mom or mother in law to stay over night especially at such a young age. But idk your sister in law kinda has a point. But I don’t think you are a bad mom and I think her saying all that stuff that she hates you and never wants to talk to you is dumb and maybe she doesn’t like you for some other reason other than that.
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Your husband snaps you out of depression and you are now a parent. I get that you had a real mental breakdown but just because you feel better they should all just be glad. Not to be mean but maybe when you were sick it was hell for everyone around you. So the hurt is he is back and you are all of a sudden happy taking care of your kid. She is just jealous because she may have thought you were playing sicker than you were. You say she is the one with problem no you are the one with the problem how about I am sorry I was very sick and I hope you can understand I needed help. Being around some one with depression is draining and the person who is sick don’t get that.
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wow, ppl are mean! depression is a terrible thing, i had it after my daughter was born, i was 18 and had an abusive partner who literally tried to kill me. i was so lost in my depression i literally could not function. my mil helped me out so much, she would watch my daughter while i slept, i know that sounds awful but i couldn’t even get out of bed some days. its not like ppl want to feel like that and abandon their kids, but when it happens there is little help out there to get you through. your sil sounds extremely selfish, maybe you could try talking to her and explaining how hard it was for you, and that you needed the help of your family. if she isnt willing to listen then maybe you are better off with out a person like that around you and your child.
good luck and i hope things get better 4 u
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Well technically from her point of view this looks horrible on you. Not to mention your mother-in-law (HER MOTHER) was not able to spend special time with her child because she was always helping you.
I can definitely see her point and here is why….
My child doesn’t see her grandparents much at all because my sister-in-law for whatever reason always pushes her kids off on my in-laws. I don’t want my baby at my in-laws with 4 other kids because I feel like that is to much to handle.
So because my SIL can’t take care of her own children, my child is suffering.
So go to her, apologize, and explain that you ddin’t feel you could take care of your child at the time-although I can’t figure out why you didn’t get on medicine and possible therapy so that you didn’t have to sacrifice time with your baby
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For me it depends on what YOU were doing while the Mother in law watched your baby. If you needed help then thats fine but you probably should have gone to the mil’s house with your child (assuming that you didn’t) if you went out with friends or went out to parties then yeah, she has every right to feel the way she does because your behavior isn’t really a behavior you should have when being a mom. When you have a baby that stuff ends except for on occasion. Only you know the truth I am just painting a picture… If you were truly suffering or having a hard time and you stayed at home with depression while the baby was being watched then she is the one with the problem but either way you can still be the bigger person and tell her how you feel in a letter without being rude or pointing finger or throwing anything back in her face… Just state the facts and let her know how it hurt you. You will be the bigger person in the long run. Drama sucks..you learn that as you get older.